Heal after Trauma

Connect with Your True Nature

Find Personal Freedom

Your experiences may have shaped you but they do not define you.

You are not the wounds of your past, nor are you your successes, you are not your possessions, nor are you what you do for a living, you are not your relationships, nor are you the labels society gives you, you are not your thoughts, nor are you what others think of you, you are not your past, nor are you your future, …So who and what then, are you?

To uncover your true nature, heal and live your best life, I believe you need attend to three key elements:

·       healing from the impact that negative past experiences had on your sense of self. This includes any traumas of the past (little, big or seemingly insignificant), their impact on your nervous system and entire body, their accompanying emotions and the limiting beliefs that arose from them. These are to be acknowledged, investigated with curiosity, with gentleness, with kindness, and resolved.

·       giving your body and nervous system the gift of your understanding, of how and why it responds the way it does in situations it perceives as ‘unsafe’. Big and little ‘t’ trauma affects the nervous system until resolved and repressed emotions live in the body causing dis-ease, so the body needs to be included in the healing work using a somatic approach to release the charge in the nervous system from the past traumas (no matter how small) and the accompanying pent-up emotions, in fact, it is key.

·       developing the present moment awareness (mindfulness) practices to support you in your healing and in your everyday life. When you encounter tricky, triggering situations in your relationships and in your day to day experience, having mindfulness skills enables you, through awareness, to free yourself from old behavioural patterns of reactivity and allows you to choose new, healthy, present-moment-appropriate responses.

All three applied together support you to breakthrough into a new way of being where you live free from the echoes of the past, are able to live more fully and openly in the present moment, with new patterns of thought and behaviour and ultimately with a fresh experience of life.

 I specialise in working with women with co-dependency issues who struggle around:

• creating and maintaining healthy boundaries

• being a 'people pleaser'

• being able to stand up for themselves

• being able to put themselves and their own needs before the needs of others

• taking responsibility for others rather than for themselves

• feeling guilty when putting themselves, their needs and wants first

• expressing their emotions, opinions, needs and desires

• a fear of rejection

• feeling stuck, helpless or hopeless

• self-confidence

• a fear of being seen

• the treadmill of constantly striving and proving themselves worthy

• perfectionism

• workaholism

• self-criticism and judgement

• needing to always be a high achiever and all that entails

• fear of confrontation, of other people’s anger and of expressing their anger

• finding themselves in a cycle of toxic relationships, romantic and otherwise

• getting their life back on track after narcissistic abuse (see below)

If you can identify with one or more of the above, then the work I do could help you.

As the above is not exhaustive list of codependency traits, please feel free to get in touch here to let me know more about your situation and issues you’re facing and to find out how the work I do can support you.

To find out more, contact me to book a Free Consultation. In this session we’ll discuss your needs, get a feel for how it would be to work together and you’ll get a sense of whether this approach is right for you.

Sessions of my Trauma-Informed Mindfulness & Somatic Healing Approach may involve any or a combination of the following modalities:

• mindfulness-based enquiry

• somatic enquiry

• transformational coaching

• brainspotting

• emotional freedom techniques (tapping)

• focusing

• breath work (pranayama)

• mindfulness practices

• loving-kindness techniques

• self-compassion techniques

This combination of elements and modalities, applied patiently, with guidance, support and self-compassion, can help you to break free from the triggers that seemingly out of nowhere can cause you to feel fearful, overpowered and stuck. The strong, overwhelming emotions that that suddenly arise in those moments can be understood and released allowing you the space, calm and freedom to communicate from your conscious adult self rather than from your wounded child part, offering the possibility of improving your relationships enormously. When you are free from the guilt, shame, blame and other uncomfortable emotions you may needlessly be carrying, along with the fears and limiting beliefs that hold you back, you’ll be able to experience a deeper connection with your true nature and all of the gifts that it brings.

I believe the journey of self-discovery that unfolds in applying these elements is what allows you to heal and transform all that is not you, thereby opening the door for your authentic self to emerge. The shifts that happen in this process allow you to feel more comfortable with who you are, both when you’re alone and around others, to express yourself more fully, to connect more intimately with yourself, friends and loved ones and to show up more boldly, joyfully and confidently, claiming for yourself a life you truly love and deserve.

Getting Started. After an initial consultation, (free of charge) to assess whether we’re the right fit for working together, we’ll jointly decide on the approach and the frequency of the sessions that best suits you. You’ll be required to commit to a minimum of 6 sessions to get started in order to fully experience the approach and to benefit from the work.

Mindfulness & Somatic Healing is available online via zoom.

Recovering from the Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse

If you’re struggling with the aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse and the devastating impact it’s had on your life, my ‘Healing After Narcissistic Abuse’ (HANA) coaching approach can support you through your recovery.

In these trauma-informed sessions you’ll:

• receive the psych education you need to understand what happened to you and how to protect yourself from this happening again.

• learn how to regulate your nervous system so that you can function day-to-day and can begin to heal your trauma.

• learn how to care for yourself again and begin to rediscover who you were before this devastating experience.

• have the opportunity to heal any past wounds that may have attracted you to a toxic partner or allowed you to put up with abusive behaviour and to acknowledge and release contributing ancestral/familial patterns.

You’ll also learn (where appropriate):

• mindfulness and somatic techniques

• loving-kindness and compassion practices

• breathing techniques (pranayama)

• self-care skills

• healthy lifestyle practices

These sessions will help you:

• release the trauma of the abuse

• clear past traumas that may have contributed to your present situation

• get clear on your needs and how to meet them

• learn to deeply care for yourself again

• rebuild your relationship with yourself (the woman you were before the abuse)

• learn to trust yourself and your decisions again again

• speak up for yourself in all situations

• show up authentically in all your relationships

• become comfortable laying down boundaries

• regain your confidence and discover your personal power

• create the life you want on your terms

  By learning to care for yourself again, you’ll begin to rebuild your relationship with yourself. As you release your trauma and clear old wounds, you’ll begin to step into a new version of yourself where you regain your self-esteem and confidence, learn to trust yourself again, find and express your voice, get clear on your needs and desires, rediscover who you truly are and what you truly want in life and get comfortable laying down boundaries that not only protect you, but also allow you to show up as your true authentic self and to create a life you love.

Getting Started. After an initial FREE consultation to assess whether we’re the right fit for working together, we’ll jointly decide on the approach and the frequency of the sessions that best suits you. You’ll be required to commit to a minimum of 6 sessions to get started in order to fully experience the approach and to benefit from the work.

Mindfulness & Somatic Healing is available online via zoom.